The idea of traveling solo can be nerve-wrecking and exciting all at the same time, but that just means you should go for it, here I’ll tell you why.
Traveling alone will be daunting, but the most liberating, life changing experience you ever go through, and I definitely recommend you try it at least once. Will it be easy? Not at first, but will it be worth it? HELL YES. Any form of wandering around this beautiful planet of ours can bring so much improvement to the lives of those who have restless feet like I do.
For me, my destination was BALI. In less then 2 months I was back in this beautiful island – Cos if I’m being honest, five days nor one week isn’t enough to get to know any country. I recommend to everyone I meet to stay at least a month or two if you can. It’s a decent amount of time to consider yourself a traveler and not as a tourist. It’s enough time for those strangers to become your friends, to get lost and discover places you didn’t expect and to fall in love with the food and culture.
If you’re at the edge of your seat planning a solo trip for the first time, here’s what you can expect that I’ve picked up a long the way that can convince you to go for it. Remember, education doesn’t necessarily mean being in four walls and expensive.
YOU'LL LEARN TO BE COMFORTABLE BEING ON YOUR OWN.
Easier said then done, but you’ll gradually learn to love it and actually be okay with it. You’ll be forced to handle situations on your own and learn that even if you’re in a sh*thole at the very moment – at the end of the day you’ll eventually figure it out, one way or another. Melt downs are mandatory and they catapult you in your new environment.
You’ll learn how to navigate your place in the world, to embrace the ever changing call of the wild and great unknown. And the best part is realizing that no matter where you go, what you do, you won’t be going home the same.
For my one month stay in Bali, I was advised by my sister who traveled there for two months, that getting around would be easier if I rented a scooter – so I did. But mind you, I only learned how to ride a couple days before my flight, a little dare devil I know.
I fell off twice and earned battle scars but honestly, I knew it was bound to happen at some point, I was just waiting for it. So the first fall was on my second day in Canggu when I decided to drive home from Old Man’s (a night bar) at 1am, since my friend stayed behind. I was doing a good job, or so I thought, till I panicked when I found myself in an inclined parking situation - accelerated too quickly and crashed my bike.
My ass, my phone and my dignity all together flew in the air and crashed on the floor. The bike fell on me and I had some minor bleeding. On top of that, I spent 20 minutes opening the wrong villa. So imagine, dead tired, bleeding, alone and scared as f*ck in a foreign country. I was on the verge of breaking down and I actually did, full on. My initial reaction was to doubt myself. I was afraid of going out there again and wanted to go just home and quit – Let me tell you now, that’s normal. Cos the next couple of days after that, I learned to park my scooter, go out without needing Google maps and actually be confident driving around.
Sometimes the universe has a way of reminding you that you don’t always need to be in control, but instead, always trust that things will work out.
IT'S A LOT EASIER TO MAKE FRIENDS THAN YOU THINK
The friends I met in Bali were genuinely some of the most amazing people I’ve ever met. It’s those times where you find yourself not planning anything and end up having a full day and by full, either your brunchin’, chillin’ by the hostel, baskin’ by the pool, nappin’ in between, hittin’ the beach to surf, watchin’ the sunset and grubbin’ somewhere good for dinner without even needing to plan about it – you just have the intuition where your friends would be at that certain time of the day where they’ll be. #StalkerInstincts lol. Kidding aside, developing a routine that works for you and having somewhat of a family in the hostel are the best parts of traveling solo.
But whether you’re in the beach, café or even just ordering a drink by the bar – you’ll always have those small talks that starts with
‘Where are you from?’
‘How long are you here for?’
‘Where have you been?’
‘Where are you going next?’
From the almost one month I’ve stayed in Bali, these are the cycle of questions that you will encounter almost everyday – You might even catch yourself conversing with someone for a while and not even knowing their name -- Especially if you stay in a hostel, which by the way I can’t emphasize any more that this is the best way to socialize and actually meet people on the same wave length as you – everyone is just trying to figure themselves out.
For me, I stayed in the best hostel ever – The Hide Hostel (which I booked in Hostelworld App) Where I found myself meeting the most amazing people in all parts of the world and actually being my consistent this entire trip without even planning it. I would advise not to get attached to your new lifestyle and friends, but it’s almost inevitable.
The best thing to do is keep in mind that everyone in Bali is passing through and that this island is a haven for nomads such as myself, so enjoy it while you can and live in the moment – take many photos, as this will be your return ticket.
YOU GET THE SOCIAL MEDIA DETOX YOU DIDN'T THINK YOU NEEDED.
As a blogger, my job insists on me being online almost 24/7 and pushing an online presence and like any other jobs no matter how much you love it – it comes to a point where it gets exhausting, real life suddenly takes a back seat as you struggle to keep your engagement. Yes, I’ve reached that extent.
Social media can be a source of negativity and insecurity that can eat you alive – you will find yourself feeding on other people’s success like a parasite and comparing your lives with others’ when in fact you should be focusing on your own growth.
Traveling alone forces you to be offline, because you get too caught up figuring everything out and busy staying alive, lol, but seriously, you’ll catch yourself living the life in front of you and loving how beautiful it is – you’ll actually forget about your phone for a just a little bit, savor those little moments cause when you look back, they aren’t little anymore.
To put it short – having a social media detox has probably been the best decision I’ve made for myself, my life and the path I want to be going in. I found myself rediscovering the joy of being alive without the pressure to conform. Not urging to consistently update my social media status and actually managing my time effectively in my own phase. I caught myself doing the things I didn’t even know I like and making the most out of it – Actually see and take in the world around me and make every minute of it meaningful, a real engagement with real people.
Remember, you need to find that balance where you get to live in the moment and still document your travel. The answer? Not having to post real time and post when its most convenient for you.
YOU BECOME MORE RESPONSIBLE – NO ONE'S GOING TO SAVE YOUR ASS BUT YOURSELF! #TOUGHLOVE
You will need to time to prep yourself ahead of time, it can either be drastic or can be a breeze, your choice. But here I’ll help you get ready by outlining a few suggestions to make your trip easier.
Plan and know your passports and visa
Know how long you can actually stay in the country legally. The allowable stay in Bali as a tourist is 30 days – but if you want to stay longer than that you can, just by paying the social visa or doing the visa run, depending on your preference. A visa run is